Choosing Adoption

Our Adoption Journey + What We've Learned Along the Way

Type of Adoption: Domestic or Intercountry & How To Decide August 16, 2011

Filed under: The Adoption Process — Jackie @ 11:26 pm
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We’re almost 100% sure that we wish to undergo an intercountry adoption.  Now, what country exactly?  We have no clue.

 

It seems like every time we make a decision, I second guess myself.  It’s very frustrating.  So, to combat this indecisiveness (which I’m sure is just me being scared to make the wrong decision) I’m really, really getting down to business with educating myself.

 

If you’re like me, and are having trouble narrowing down the vast options available to you, you should check out The US Department of Health & Human Services’ website.  It is filled with fantastic information and tons of links to help point you in the right direction.

 

In fact, here is just one of the many things I found helpful while searching the site this evening:

 

 

 

 

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I just love a good flow chart, don’t you?

 

This Map of Adoption Options lays out your choices (Domestic Adoption?  Intercountry Adoption?) in the simplest of forms.  And the best part is that on the site you can click on your choice to get more information about it!

 

What has it taught me?  Well, it has taught me that if we’re going to do an intercountry adoption, we need to next determine whether we’ll be choosing a Hague Convention Country or Non-Hague Convention Country before we can start on our home study, because there are different processes for each.  I knew we’d have to make this distinction eventually, but didn’t realize that it was one that needed to be made before we even begin the home-study process.

 

So, it’s back to the drawing board for us at the moment!  I’ve got lots of reading to do to insure we find a process and placement that’s best for our family.

 

To anyone else undergoing adoption overload at the moment, just hang in there!  Oh, and pass along any of your tips to me while you’re at it!  :)

 

 

 

Conducting a Raffle: A How-To Guide August 10, 2011

Filed under: The Adoption Process — Jackie @ 10:52 pm
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We want to conduct at least one raffle drawing as a fundraiser and so I’ve been searching the net for tips on how to get the most bang for my buck.  Here’s my recommended plan of attack!

 

There’s a few key things you’ll need:

  1. A Raffle Committee
  2. Prizes
  3. A Game Plan

A Raffle Committee

 

Gather a group of people willing to help out with the raffle.  Of course, the more people the better.  And, if you can get people from different circles (some people from your job, others from your family, etc) that’s wonderful too.  These people will be your army.  They’ll help you decide on prizes, establish your game plan, and of course, spread the word and sell those tickets!

 

Prizes

 

This is where your committee members can really help out!  Everyone has connections somewhere.  Put your heads together and see what you can come up with.  Can you get one really big item at a discount?  Do you want prizes for the ticket drawn second, third?  Put your committee to work!  After your initial gathering where you brainstorm, give them time to think on things, talk to people, and then meet back up for a subsequent meeting with everyone before any final decisions are made.

 

Prizes can be anything and everything, but in order to be most effective, raffle off something that others really want!  What about a mini-vacation?  Gift-certificates to a nice restaurant, or a salon, or for a spa package?  Everyone loves electronics.  What about an iPod or a Nook?

 

Be sure to email or call local businesses that sell the items you’re interested in.  Tell them why you’re holding the raffle and why you’d like for that particular business to be involved.  Your chances are good that you’ll get discounted or free items, making your profits from sales even higher!

 

A Game Plan

 

How long will you hold the raffle for?  You need to have a firm cut off date so that you can tell ticket purchasers when to expect to find out if they’ve won.  Generally speaking, one to three months seems to be a good collection time.

 

And speaking of those awesome purchasers–how do you plan on getting ahold of that person?  Do you have a website that you’ll post the winner’s name on?  Will you just telephone the winner?  You’ll need to give purchasers this information as well.

 

How much will you sell tickets for?  For a $100 gift certificate, you can probably get away with selling tickets for $1 each.  But, if you just purchased a $500 flat-screen, you’ll be able to get away with charging $10 or so per ticket.  Also, if your rate is $1 per ticket, be sure to tell potential purchasers that they’ll get 1 ticket for $1 or 6 tickets for $5.  That added incentive to purchase more (one free entry) can yield you extra cash.

 

Consider hosting an event during the time of your raffle.  For example, we plan on having a rummage sale.  I want to coordinate the date of this sale so that I can have someone sit at a table to sell tickets to individuals as they rummage.  I mean, why NOT use events as a way to collect more money?

 

Also, be sure you and your team spread the word about what the proceeds to toward.  Everyone wants to know who or what they’re contributing to.  Is it possible to have little cards or flyers made up to give out?  This is something I’m going to look into for us.  I want purchasers to be able to check in on us and to see how their money is being used toward our goal.  So, I plan on having something printed (more than likely something that is business-card sized) that says THANK YOU, contains our names, and the link to this website.

 

I hope you find this information helpful in organizing your raffle!   Good luck!

 

So, I just kinda announced it to everyone… August 9, 2011

Filed under: Our Adoption Journey — Jackie @ 5:31 pm
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I wrote a post on my personal blog about how we’ve decided to adopt and shared the post on Facebook.  I wanted everyone to know we’re adopting and to hear it from me because word of mouth travels quickly.  I didn’t want my closest friends finding out from anyone but me.  And of course, I need to spread the word in order to help with funding our adoption as well.  We literally can’t “afford” for everyone to find out after the fact.

 

It’s odd but now I feel really scared all of a sudden.  Like, oh no… everyone knows now so there’s no “backing out.”  I didn’t expect to feel this way considering that I have no intentions of “backing out,” so these feelings are really odd for me.

 

I think that I’m worried now that it won’t work out and we won’t be able to adopt and that I’ll have everyone asking me how everything is going and that I won’t be able to give them good news.  Maybe all of my jitters about all of the “unknown” events that will take place over the next year or two are finally just coming to the surface?

 

Do you think this is normal?  Were you scared or nervous once you broke the news to everyone?

 

Our WePay Site Is Up! :) August 7, 2011

Filed under: Our Adoption Journey — Jackie @ 11:27 pm
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I am so excited to announce that as of today, our WePay site is up.  It can be accessed directly through this link and I have also included a Donate Button on the right side of this site.

 

So, what is WePay?  It’s an awesome site that allows people to gather donations for any cause.  Those who choose to donate can donate any amount.  Donations are secure and private.  In addition to allowing visitors to donate, it also allows visitors to read our story and why it is that we’re choosing adoption.  So stop by and get to know us [and yes, I'll eventually post it on this site as well.  ;)]

 

Although our WePay site is only currently taking donations, within the next month I hope to set up raffles through the site as well.  I think raffles are tons of fun and am already in the process of thinking up all the neat items I want to include in future raffle(s) so look for an update on this within the next month.

 

I must admit that I was very hesitant in setting up the account.  Part of me thinks, WHY would anyone want to donate money to us?  And honestly, I can’t say that we’re more deserving than any other couple trying to fund adoption.  But, I know that I have donated to strangers before through WePay and other similar sites such as Kickstarter.  So, maybe there are others out there like me, who will feel compelled to help out a stranger.

 

I hope that even if you’re not interested in donating or are simply unable, that you will consider passing our information onto to others.  Spreading the word about who we are and why we seek adoption would mean the world to us.

 

Of course, using WePay is just one of the many ways in which we’ll attempt to fund our adoption.  I will be posting soon on some of our other ideas.

 

Are you using a WePay site (or a similar site) to help with your adoption?  If so, please share!

 

Where to Begin? August 6, 2011

Filed under: The Adoption Process — Jackie @ 10:50 pm
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So, you know you want to adopt.  But where do you start?  There’s probably no right answer to this question.  That being said, I believe you can’t go wrong by asking yourself a few key questions before moving forward.

 

For us, we began by simply finding out what we’re comfortable with.  For example, my husband and I have asked ourselves the following questions:

 

Do we want an international adoption?

 

Are we open to raising a child of a different ethnicity?

 

Are we open to raising a child with special needs?

 

Are we open to adopting either a boy or a girl?

 

How much contact from the birth mother are we comfortable with?

 

Are we open to adopting an older child?

 

Of course, these are just a few of the questions we’ve asked ourselves.  But they’re very important questions.  Surprisingly, some of our answers differed and it required some discussion.  But these are very important preliminary questions that must be answered before moving forward.  After all, we have to first know what we’re comfortable with before we can pursue our journey to bringing home our child.

 

So, don’t be afraid to sit down and spend some time thinking things over.  And if you’re adopting with your partner or spouse, make sure you’re on the same page.  Some things may be extremely important to you, while others you are open to several possibilities.  Knowing where you stand and discussing these issues ahead of time will make your journey easier and will hopefully avoid any unnecessary disagreements with your significant other in the future.

 

What questions would you add to this list?

 

An Introduction Seems Proper

Filed under: Our Adoption Journey — Jackie @ 1:19 am
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Hello.

I’m Jackie, and the fact that this site exists makes me very excited.  Why?  Well, because it means that we’ve officially begun our journey to adopt.

 

How will we afford it?  I have no clue.

 

Where will we adopt from?  I have no clue.

 

How do I even start this process?  You guessed it.  I have absolutely no clue.

 

So, now that I’ve told you what I don’t know… let me tell you what I do know.

 

I know I want to add to our family.

 

I know that I’d have a high-risk pregnancy if I were to carry.

 

I know there are many children in the world in need of parents.

 

I know that it makes no sense to risk my life carrying a child when I can be a mommy to a little boy or girl who’s already here.

 

I know I want to adopt.

 

I know I will adopt.

 

Are you like me?  Do you know you want to adopt, but have no clue where to start or how you’ll ever understand such a confusing process (better yet, how you’ll afford it once you DO figure it out)?  Well, then take a deep breathe and let’s do this together.

 

Throughout the course of this blog, I will not only be documenting the ups and downs of our journeys, but I will also share all of the information I learn (and hopefully sum it up in a lot easier way) for those who wish to start the process themselves.

 

Please join me.  Cheer me on.  Listen to my frustrations.  And just let me know I’m not alone.

 

 
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